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Friday, March 28

Just came back from watching the show Rule Number One!



Jeez Im really immune to all the scare tactics already. At least in the past when the ghost suddenly pops out I'll still get a little frightened or try to peek through my hands to minimise the sound effects. But today, I just sat straightfaced and unfazed by any of those sudden sounds. The only part that scared me was the part where the supposedly dead girl sat up again and that was only because Sheena, beside me got a shock by her and kinda came crashing into my right arm. I was intently watching the show, knowing that hey this is not true so no reason to be afraid when I thought the ghost from the movie really came to grab me or something.




Felt like a greedy pig mann when I ate the entire sausage bun. It was like double the length of a usual hot dog bun?! My jaw just fell when I saw the size of it. Not only that, I finished half a popcorn combo too! When mayqi, cheryl and jessica cant even finish one! LOL. No wonder im called "Very Pig" in GC.



GP lesson was mundane as per usual. We copied a lot of notes and tried our best to keep awake. I think if I had thicker eyelids like Tom from "Tom and Jerry", I'd wedge a matchstick to keep myself from dozing off. Ducro switched Chewy with Samira today. So chewy got promoted to the front row and Samira got relegated to the back. Thank goodness it wasnt me who got shifted to the back. I'd just go blind from squinting to see the words Ducro wrote on the board. According to Jessica, the last row is the worst cos not only will you go blind from trying to see the tiny words, you have to do a little jiggle dance-a little to the right and a little to the left, all because your view would most probably be blocked by Durco, the OHP, or the second and first row people. Phew. Luckily Im stuck at the front row with a bird's eye view!



Yeay tomorrow is fiesta day!! Argh but there's still SPA to take in the morning. What a wet blanket!



Was chatting with Sheena when I suddenly brought up the topic of Garo, this super cool show I watched so many times several years back. Made me feel like watching it all over again. I tried to get some of my friends to watch it before and some thought it was a lame show, crappish and hilarious. Yes, watching a guy kill Horrors(monsters) after transforming into a golden knight may sound incredulous and dumb, but the love story within the show is really damn sweet. Kouga obviously cares a lot about kaoru and you can see from the ways he keep trying to protect her. But in front of her he acts heck care. And then kaoru is clueless about his affections for her and is so blur and all. Nice right?




Kouga kouga kouga....




Where are you? Haha...



<3

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7:27 PM


Wednesday, March 26

Just realised that I've lost quite a lot of things over the years. Like for example, Vocabulary. I used to keep so many of them as my pets and whenever I want them they'd just bound into my stretched-out arms for me to embrace. So quick and easy. They come at my command, those sweet dearies. But over the years I think almost half of them escaped or something. I can stretch out my arms wide only to attract blank stares from those pets who used to be so full of initiative. Either they don't wanna hug me back or they just don't know if they should! Looks like I've got a job to do-collect back my lost babies or find new ones as a replacement!


Wah and so fast its wednesday already. I swear these days are just zooming by at 10 million miles per hour or something. But the good thing is, very soon A levels will be OVER! YESSSS. I cant wait. Think about ALL the things I can do! The very thought just caused me to drool mann. *Wipes of the disgusting traces of saliva*



Anyway, Sherf just introduced me to this song by Aska several days back. I think that the song is truly meaningful mann. AND it gets you rather emo too. Like if you sit down in front of your computer just listening to that song and reflecting on your own life etc, you feel...*one million jumbled up feelings*



如果你眼神能够为我 片刻的降临
如果你能听到 心碎的声音
沉默的守护著你 沉默的等奇迹
沉默的让自己 像是空气
大家都吃著聊著笑著 今晚多开心
最角落里的我 笑得多合群
盘底的洋葱像我 永远是调味品
偷偷的看著你 偷偷的隐藏著自己
如果你愿意一层一层一层 的剥开我的心
你会发现 你会讶异
你是我 最压抑 最深处的秘密
如果你愿意一层一层一层 的剥开我的心
你会鼻酸 你会流泪
只要你能 听到我 看到我的全心全意
听你说你和你的他们 暧昧的空气
我和我的绝望 装得很风趣
我就像一颗洋葱 永远是配角戏
多希望能与你 有一秒 专属的剧情


Im suddenly wondering though, why is it that all the really emo songs has to do with the theme of love? If love causes so much pain and hurt, why is it still love? Isnt loving someone supposed to be a happy and sweet thing? Hmmm. *sees food floating in front of this guy named "Thought"* Ah wells. I guess the pain comes from not being loved back in the same magnitude. If two people like each other, then thank heaven thank earth, they are HAPPY. But if its a sad thing like a one way traffic, awww, then its SAD. Like, so 悲哀。。。



Just went to gc blog and saw the video of those kittens. Awww they're just so adorable! (Like ME!) When I saw them i just wanna go join them in their tumbling about, as well as CAT FIGHT! MEOW MEOW MEOW MEOW MEOW! *Claws in the air* Where's my owner? :) *xiao bao runs around in circles, got giddy and faints*



Yes, its true that some things never change, but over time I've seen so much change that I wonder just WHAT will remain the same with the passing of time...

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7:53 PM


Friday, March 21

Went to K-box yesterday with 8 of my classmates. It was a spur of the moment decision though. I think we kind of took the whole day deciding what to do before last minute agreeing to k-box unanimously. A major part of my decision came from wanting to hear Jiamin sing. Haha, I was really damn curious bout that and it turns out that, hey, he actually can sing not bad. Just that, um, yeah he sings Jolin's songs and dances along with her at some points of time. Talk about entertainment value yeah?



The room was freaking warm, just like the LTs in our school(with the exception of LT5). At least we've had enough experience in school to not get warmed to death. Since the room was also considered rather big, to accomodate all 9 of us, we extended our "timeline" until an extra half an hour later since the room wasnt in such popular demand i guess. We only left the place at around 7.30. On the journey back I was wondering what to say to my parents when i get back. What excuses to give that I was back so late. Its okay to tell my mom, since she probably wouldnt mind so much, but my dad? No wayy. He'd lament about how i like to spend so much before even coming out to work. Oh wells.



The surprise came when I reached home. No one said a thing. It was as if it was normal for me to be returning home at 8 plus! I was seriously damn shocked. Oh wells. Good thing though-I dont have to lie.



Plants grow towards sunlight. What about humans? do we actually grow towards something, or someone?

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6:36 PM


Wednesday, March 19

A Life Lie is a story we tell ourselves. A story we believe about our lives that lets us ignore reality & focus on a glorious future.




Got this from a happiness website. I thought it was a really interesting idea. We could choose to live our lives reflecting too much and consumed by all those stuffs we wish we did, could have done and could have achieved OR we could choose to live happy. And to achive that we could come up with a sort of a Life Lie. A lie that shows you living with some great purpose on hand. For example, you could leave your home everyday thinking that you are out on some mission to save the world and whatever sucky job you are doing is the suffering you have to take to be a hero, to help others. I don't think its really a delusion but in fact some kind of game you play with yourself to keep amused and yet live inside a happy bubble.



My new spects had quite a variety of reactions today. Some stated that it looked weird, some said I look like Violet from the Incredibles, some said it fit me very well, some said it made me look smarter and some said it made me look prettier. So, overall I guess the new spects got me not bad comments.




Ah wells. I came online for a PURPOSE. which is to do my cip reflection. But, one and a half hours later, which is now, I STILL haven started!! Because I dunno what to write. The crunch time hasnt arrived yet. Sighs. Okay Im off to ponder over the reflection.

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9:12 PM


Tuesday, March 18

I just changed my spectacles into this squarish maroon framed one. And I think it looks damn weird. Im waiting for my classmates' reactions tomorrow to see if my worries are founded.



Recently I've been suffering from an inability to fall asleep. I dunno why, but everytime I lie on the bed, I'll just start to think and reflect on what has happened for the whole day and by the time Im done with it, its quite late already and my brain has become more active. bleagh okay just realised need to do bio! OFF even though i have loads more stuffs to say.

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8:53 PM


Friday, March 7

Wahaha today is the last day of school before march holidays but somehow it doesnt feel like it! Jeez, I remember how I used to experience that sense of exhiliaration when last day of school approaches. How I longed for the holidays to come! But hor, today I actually felt a twinge of sadness la. Maybe its the attachment I feel for the class. I guess its a one way thing, since the last time I checked, no one seems to feel sad about going into holidays at all. Instead, they were glad! But then I do appreciate an entire week to rest my poor tired soul:)



Listening to some songs while emoing just now. Its all because of the release of the A levels results la. Dunno why it affected me so much, Im not even the one receiving them. I suppose its because I fear that I would be the one crying again next year. Shivers at the thought.



Mr Ducro was having mood swings again today. I swear he's like some kinda ticking bomb, or landmines as jessica commented. You never know when he's going to blow! One moment he was all calm while he greeted us and the next thing we knew, he got into this long and draggy speech about our attitudes and how we should just leave his class if we come to class with this kinda attitude(what kind I also dunno, either he didnt specify or I forgot. Probably the latter, since I have such short term memory...sighs)



And then when we didnt expect it, he just suddenly yelled out some words to the class. Okay i know this is no laughing matter, but when he boomed, the two people sitting in front actually jumped in their seats! I wouldnt be surprised if they jumped out of it! And then I felt a giggling fit coming. Thank goodness I shifted my concentration to my paper instead. I think I stared at it so hard that I wont be surprised to find that I've burned a hole in it. I wonder what would happen if I just burst out laughing...


"Do you think that this is FUNNY? I tell you, its no laughing matter. Next year at this time when you receive your A levels then you see if you can laugh..."


Probably, this is what he would say...



Hmmm... oh wells, regarding As, I guess I would have to work hard from now on. I've really gotta change that horrible attitude of mine and start to care about my grades. Maybe worrying about them could be my first step out...

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8:12 PM


Wednesday, March 5

This week is seriously a hectic week, the busiest I've had for a long long time. We have got a test every single day..Monday is maths, tuesday chem, wednesday econs, thursday bio, friday econs again. Yet here I am, coming online to blog when I didnt even do it during my free time.



Perhaps its the mood thing la. Of late I havent exactly been feeling very happy or stuff. The funny thing is, I only feel not so happy when Im at home but not in school! The change is drastic mann. I feel so exuberant in school when Im surrounded by my friends and all. Maybe I got too used to company such that without them I have no mood to be high.



Or maybe... another theory could be that my happiness is just to mask whatever moodiness I have inside and once Im home its all let out?



Anyway, on a happier note, Arsenal actually beat AC Milan at their home ground this morning! And the two goals were pretty last minute too. Whee slightly cheered up by that news.



Oh wells... I found out today that I am down for chem remedial. Quite expected though, so I wasnt surprised by it. Sigh. Too "cant find a word to put here" to continue blogging...

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9:33 PM


Saturday, March 1

Hmmm, i came online with the intention to blog. Blog about my life, what happened and my feelings towards certain things. Yet when I am finally here, typing, I realised that I had nothing to say.



Sighs. Or rather I have no idea what to put down on my blog. Its like my "blog filter" is currently not working.



I just realised just now that I study better when Im feeling down than when Im happy. Its like when I was happy, I stare at the lecture notes and nothing goes in. Immediately my mind would be full of the "happy" stuffs. Then just now in the morning, I was feeling rather emo and all and when I stared at my lecture notes, those words actually managed to go in!! I think my brain knows im feeling sad or troubled so it tries to get me to close out the bad and at the same time absorb lecture notes information! Coolios now I know that I have to be sad when i really wanna concentrate on my studies.



Hmmm recently I think Im becoming more easily aggitated and less tolerant of others. I hate the feeling of being forced to do something against my will. There are things that I will do without being instructed to, be it done out of good will or done because I want to. But I just don't want to be instructed to do it specifically. Because then it will seem like I am obeying rather than doing something I want to. In the end I'll just rebel and go against it, like how when my mom keeps telling me to study I get really fed up and either purposely not study or lose my mood to study. It just sucks to the core. Urgh.




Leap years was a rather slow moving movie. In fact one of the only things I like about the show happens to be the music that they aired for the trailers. Unfortunately, during the show I didnt exactly hear much of the music at all. The show turned out to be quite disappointing on the whole. I was actually quite bored by it. I guess its because there isnt really much action in the show. Its not exciting, neither is it fun to watch, nor is it scary to keep me on my toes. In fact, its just sweet but not in the entertaining kind of sweet like in Enchanted. Granted, Wong Lilin is really pretty but eh, Im not paying $6 just to watch her right? Actually to give the film some credit, the idea of using the Leap Year as the basis for their plot is really refreshing and brilliant but the show just lacks something. I cant put my finger on it. Maybe it has got to do with how wong lilin and the guy seems to have no much chemistry. I cant really feel like they are in love leh. Hmmm...oh wells.




Whee Arsenal's playing later and i hope they win! jia you jia you. hahaha.




There are stuffs I really wanna tell you but I don't dare to. I don't want to risk this friendship we already share. What if by telling you so, it just breaks your heart and then things may not be the same again. Sighs. But by not telling you, its actually harming you in the long run. Im at a total loss of what to do. And I hate the way how this is troubling me so.

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9:44 PM



ENFP Relationships
ENFPs take their relationships very seriously, but also approach them with a childlike enthusiasm and energy. They seek and demand authenticity and depth in their personal relationships, and will put forth a lot of effort into making things work out. They are warm, considerate, affirming, nurturing, and highly invested in the health of the relationship. They have excellent interpersonal skills, and are able to inspire and motivate others to be the best that they can be. Energetic and effervescent, the ENFP is sometimes smothering in their enthusiasm, but are generally highly valued for their genuine warmth and high ideals.
ENFP Strengths
Most ENFPs will exhibit the following strengths with regards to relationships issues:
Good communication skills
Very perceptive about people's thought and motives
Motivational, inspirational; bring out the best in others
Warmly affectionate and affirming
Fun to be with - lively sense of humor, dramatic, energetic, optimistic
Strive for "win-win" situations
Driven to meet other's needs
Usually loyal and dedicated
ENFP Weaknesses
Most ENFPs will exhibit the following weaknesses with regards to relationship issues:
Tendency to be smothering
Their enthusiasm may lead them to be unrealistic
Uninterested in dealing with "mundane" matters such as cleaning, paying bills, etc.
Hold onto bad relationships long after they've turned bad
Extreme dislike of conflict
Extreme dislike of criticism
Don't pay attention to their own needs
Constant quest for the perfect relationship may make them change relationships frequently
May become bored easily
Have difficulty scolding or punishing others
ENFPs as Lovers
"To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May
ENFPs make warm, considerate, passionate partners who are generally willing, eager, and able to do whatever it takes to make The Relationship a positive place to be. They are enthusiastic, idealistic, focused on other people's feelings, and very flexible. These attributes combine to make them especially interested in positive personal relationships, and also makes them very able to promote strong relationships in fun and creative ways. ENFPs take their commitments very seriously, and are generally deeply loyal and faithful to their partners.
There are a couple of difficult relationship areas for the ENFP. The first problem is that many ENFPs have a problem leaving bad relationships. They tend to internalize any problems and take them on their own shoulders, believing that the success or failure of the relationship is their own responsibility. As perfectionists, they don't like to admit defeat, and will stick with bad situations long after they should have left. When they do leave the relationship, they will believe that the failure was their fault, and that there was surely something they could have done to save the relationship.
On the entirely other end of the spectrum, many ENFPs have a difficult time staying focused and following things through to completion. If they have not focused on their ability to follow through, they may have problems staying in dedicated, monogamous relationships. They are so in tune with all of the exciting possibilities of what could be, that they will always fantasize about a greener pasture out there somewhere. If they are not paired with a partner who enjoys new experiences, or who shares their idealistic enthusiasm, the ENFP may become bored. The ENFP who is bored and who is not focused will be very unhappy, and will eventually "leave" the relationship if the problem is not addressed.
Since relationships are central to the ENFP's life, they will be very "hands on" and involved with their intimate relationships. They may be in the habit of constantly asking their partner how they're doing, what they're feeling, etc. This behavior may be a bit smothering, but it also supports a strong awareness of the health (or illness) of the relationship.
Sexually, The ENFP is creative, perfectionistic, playful and affectionate. Their rich fantasy world makes them fun and creative lovers, who usually have new ideas up their sleeves. They whole-heartedly embrace the opportunity for closeness with their mates, believing sexual intimacy to be a positive, fun way to express how much you love each other.
The ENFP needs to be given positive assurance and affirmation. More than one ENFP has been known to "go fishing" for compliments. They like to hear from their significant others that they are loved and valued, and are willing and eager to return the favor. They enjoy lavishing love and affection on their mates, and are creative and energetic in their efforts to please. The ENFP gets a lot of their personal satisfaction from observing the happiness of others, and so is generally determined to please and serve their partners.
A problem area for ENFPs in relationships is their dislike of conflict and sensitivity to criticism. They are perfectionists who believe that any form of criticism is a stab at their character, which is very difficult for them to take. Conflict situations are sources of extreme stress to the ENFP. They have a tendency to brush issues under the rug rather than confront them head-on, if there is likely to be a conflict. They are also prone to "give in" easily in conflict situations, just to end the conflict. They might agree to something which goes against their values just to end the uncomfortable situation. In such cases, the problem is extended and will return at a later time. The ENFP needs to realize that conflict situations are not the end of the world. They are entirely normal, and can be quite helpful for the growth of a relationship. They also need to work on taking criticism for what it is, rather than blowing up any negative comment into an indictment against their entire character.
Generally, the ENFP is a warm and affirming creature who is very interested and able to have an intense, meaningful, close relationship with their mate.
Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, ENFP's natural partner is the INTJ, or the INFJ. ENFP's dominant function of Extraverted Intuition is best matched with a partner whose dominant function is Introverted Intuition. How did we arrive at this?
ENFPs as Parents
"You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth...Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable." -- Kahlil Gibran
ENFPs take their parenting role very seriously, but are also very playful. There's a bit of grown-up kid in every ENFP, so they get a lot of fun and enjoyment from playing with their children. However, they consider it essential to pass their strongly-held values and beliefs down to their children, and will strive consistently to create a positive, ideal environment for their children's growth.
The ENFP may exhibit an inconsistency in their roles with their children. At one moment, they might be their child's best friend, laughing and whooping it up, and in the next moment they may appear the stern authoritarian. This inconsistency seems to be a result of a conflict between the ENFP's genuine desire to relate to their children on the children's level, and their compulsion to follow their deeply-felt value system. In other words, the ENFP wants to be their child's friend, but if a value is violated, they will revert to the parental role to make sure their children understand the violation. This inconsistency may be confusing and frustrating for the children.
The children of ENFPs generally feel loved, because the ENFP gives their children plenty of genuine warmth and support. They usually value their children as individuals, allowing them room for growth. The ENFP's enthusiasm and affection may at times seem smothering to their children. This will be especially true for children with strong Thinking or Sensing preferences, who will have a difficult time understanding the effervescence of the ENFP, and will feel at times embarassed by the ENFP's enthusiasm and tendency to display their affection publicly.
The ENFP is able to take care of day-to-day necessities, such as picking children up at the correct times, getting them to softball practice, getting them fed, etc. However, it is a chore for the ENFP and is not a natural strength. The ENFP also has a difficult time disciplining their children, unless a very strongly-held value has been violated.
The rich imagination and creativity of the ENFP parent creates a fun, dynamic and exciting environment for kids. The ENFP's strong value system turns experiences into meaningful lessons for their children. The ENFP parent is valued by their children for their warm, affirming natures, and their fun-loving approach to living.
ENFPs as Friends
ENFPs are warm and sociable people who are keenly in tune with other people's feelings and perspectives. They are energetic and fun to be with. They are very affirming, and get great satisfaction from supporting and lifting up others. They are idealists who seek authenticity in their personal relationships. ENFPs are valued by their peers and confidantes as warm, supportive, giving people.
In the workplace or other casual relationship environments, the ENFP is likely to get along well with almost all other types of people. ENFPs are genuinely interested in people, and are highly perceptive about them, to the point where they're able to understand and relate to all of the personality types with relative ease. They like to see the best in others, and are likely to bring out the best in others. While they are generally accepting of most all people, ENFPs with strong Feeling preferences may have a difficult time understanding people with very strong Thinking preferences who do not respond to the ENFP's enthusiastic warmth. The ENFP will stay open-minded about what they consider a "rejection" by the Thinker, until the situation has repeated itself a few times, in which case the ENFP may shut themselves entirely against the Thinker.
ENFPs may also feel threatened by individuals with strong Judging preferences. With a tendency to take any criticism personally, the ENFP may find themselves irritated or emotional when the Judger expresses a negative opinion, believing somehow that the Judger is expressing disapproval or disappointment in the ENFP.
For close friendships, ENFPs are especially drawn to other iNtuitive Feeling types, and to other Extraverts who are also enthusiastic about life. Like the other iNtuitive Feeling types, the ENFP needs authenticity and depth in their close relationships. They're likely to have friends from all walks of life who they feel close to and care about, but will have only a few very close friends with similar ideals to their own. The ENFP also tends to value the company of iNtuitive Thinkers.

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9:12 PM



Portrait of an ENFP - Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving(Extraverted Intuition with Introverted Feeling)
The Inspirer
As an ENFP, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you take things in primarily via your intuition. Your secondary mode is internal, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit in with your personal value system.
ENFPs are warm, enthusiastic people, typically very bright and full of potential. They live in the world of possibilities, and can become very passionate and excited about things. Their enthusiasm lends them the ability to inspire and motivate others, more so than we see in other types. They can talk their way in or out of anything. They love life, seeing it as a special gift, and strive to make the most out of it.
ENFPs have an unusually broad range of skills and talents. They are good at most things which interest them. Project-oriented, they may go through several different careers during their lifetime. To onlookers, the ENFP may seem directionless and without purpose, but ENFPs are actually quite consistent, in that they have a strong sense of values which they live with throughout their lives. Everything that they do must be in line with their values. An ENFP needs to feel that they are living their lives as their true Self, walking in step with what they believe is right. They see meaning in everything, and are on a continuous quest to adapt their lives and values to achieve inner peace. They're constantly aware and somewhat fearful of losing touch with themselves. Since emotional excitement is usually an important part of the ENFP's life, and because they are focused on keeping "centered", the ENFP is usually an intense individual, with highly evolved values.
An ENFP needs to focus on following through with their projects. This can be a problem area for some of these individuals. Unlike other Extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values. ENFPs who remain centered will usually be quite successful at their endeavors. Others may fall into the habit of dropping a project when they become excited about a new possibility, and thus they never achieve the great accomplishments which they are capable of achieving.
Most ENFPs have great people skills. They are genuinely warm and interested in people, and place great importance on their inter-personal relationships. ENFPs almost always have a strong need to be liked. Sometimes, especially at a younger age, an ENFP will tend to be "gushy" and insincere, and generally "overdo" in an effort to win acceptance. However, once an ENFP has learned to balance their need to be true to themselves with their need for acceptance, they excel at bringing out the best in others, and are typically well-liked. They have an exceptional ability to intuitively understand a person after a very short period of time, and use their intuition and flexibility to relate to others on their own level.
Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. They place no importance on detailed, maintenance-type tasks, and will frequently remain oblivous to these types of concerns. When they do have to perform these tasks, they do not enjoy themselves. This is a challenging area of life for most ENFPs, and can be frustrating for ENFP's family members.
An ENFP who has "gone wrong" may be quite manipulative - and very good it. The gift of gab which they are blessed with makes it naturally easy for them to get what they want. Most ENFPs will not abuse their abilities, because that would not jive with their value systems.
ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment. They have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person or situation, but when they apply judgment to their perception, they may jump to the wrong conclusions.
ENFPs who have not learned to follow through may have a difficult time remaining happy in marital relationships. Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, they may become bored with what actually is. The strong sense of values will keep many ENFPs dedicated to their relationships. However, ENFPs like a little excitement in their lives, and are best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experiences.
Having an ENFP parent can be a fun-filled experience, but may be stressful at times for children with strong Sensing or Judging tendancies. Such children may see the ENFP parent as inconsistent and difficult to understand, as the children are pulled along in the whirlwind life of the ENFP. Sometimes the ENFP will want to be their child's best friend, and at other times they will play the parental authoritarian. But ENFPs are always consistent in their value systems, which they will impress on their children above all else, along with a basic joy of living.
ENFPs are basically happy people. They may become unhappy when they are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks. Consequently, ENFPs work best in situations where they have a lot of flexibility, and where they can work with people and ideas. Many go into business for themselves. They have the ability to be quite productive with little supervision, as long as they are excited about what they're doing.
Because they are so alert and sensitive, constantly scanning their environments, ENFPs often suffer from muscle tension. They have a strong need to be independent, and resist being controlled or labelled. They need to maintain control over themselves, but they do not believe in controlling others. Their dislike of dependence and suppression extends to others as well as to themselves.
ENFPs are charming, ingenuous, risk-taking, sensitive, people-oriented individuals with capabilities ranging across a broad spectrum. They have many gifts which they will use to fulfill themselves and those near them, if they are able to remain centered and master the ability of following through.


http://www.personalitypage.com/ENFP.html

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9:06 PM